“He brought me out into a spacious place; he rescued me because he delighted in me.” Psalm 18:19
At the end of 2018 I wrote a blog post about why I was going into 2019 with a new found perspective, more like an awakening really, about goal setting and why I was ditching resolutions to focus on creating more intention and in this blog post I want to share with you how you can build upon that to simplify your life and business as a mompreneur.
But before I dive into that, I want to back up a bit and explain more about where my heart is and why God has led me to approach this year differently.
As a mompreneur, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that as we uplevel our businesses, we need to keep speeding up to do more, be more, get more done in less time and hustle our hearts out until we are exhausted and depleted. From there, we are told to just push through it and do whatever it takes.
Well, friend, I am here to tell you that I personally won’t play along with that game anymore. As I approached 2019 my soul craved simplicity. I went into the holidays wanting to spend more time with my family and less time on social media. I wanted to be more present in the moments that mattered without feeling like I was sacrificing a commitment to my business. I gave myself permission not to post every day on my Facebook business page. I gave myself grace and some much needed and deserved slack.
See, where there is simplicity there is spaciousness and where there is spaciousness there is slowness and in this sweet space we can delight in who God created us to be, we can uncover a new found joy in His communication with us, we can open ourselves so we hear what He wants to share with us and find clarity in the how and where He wants to lead us.
This transition is very paradoxical for me coming from a life of hurry to get it done that was ingrained in me from a corporate background and a busy mom of two boys to building a business from scratch to replace a lucrative full-time income. Just writing that makes my eyes glaze over and my heart beat faster.
I confess that slow and simple doesn’t come easy for me and maybe it never will yet I crave it and that is exactly why I am obeying Him and ditching the resolutions to going in a different direction this year. I am following His path and only His so not having it all figured out yet while not easy at the same time feels right where I need to be and there is a peace that washes over me.
In the last month of 2018, I explored playfully with slowing down to simplify areas of my life and knew I was on the right track because I immediately noticed results. Not only in my business but in my personal life and how I felt.
- I immediately started getting more inbound client requests to connect
- I immediately felt a better connection with the clients on the phone because I was actually slowing down enough to be fully present, not worried about the next step. I let God handle that part.
- As a result, I enrolled more clients
- I immediately started to feel levity in my being, more joy and fun in my presence which translated into my family time and quality of that time
- I immediately noticed my energy level rise. I felt freer. (Matthew 11:28-30) “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Things don’t have to be complicated or feel hard for you to be content, accomplished or successful. I want to inspire and encourage you with these 10 ways you can simplify and de-clutter your life. Be sure to write down the action steps you take, how it makes you feel and the results, no matter how small, you see because this will help you measure exactly it is impacting your life on a daily basis.
1. Physical Simplicity – Remove physical clutter from your home. Clean out a drawer, a closet, a cabinet. Physical clutter weighs us down. You don’t have to tackle it all in one day, please don’t torture yourself. Make it a weekly task on your calendar. When you gather items to donate, make it a day to get out and visit your favorite coffee shop.
2. Relationship Simplicity – Relationships can be complicated with friends, family and co-workers. There may be ways that you can create healthy boundaries with some of these relationships and others may be opportunities for you to think about how you are showing up. We can’t remove a co-worker from our lives but we can ask ourselves what can we do to make the situation easier and less complicated. Spend more time with people who uplift and encourage you.
3. Health Simplicity – We all need to take care of ourselves but maybe trying to workout for 2 hours a day is not working for you. So instead of beating yourself up, think about ways you can make taking care of yourself a more simplistic process. Meal prep on Sunday night for the whole week where you can grab and go during the week. Go for walks on your lunch break. Make being active and eating better as a fluid part of your day that works for your schedule and lifestyle and not based upon a strict regimen because that is what a health guru says you should do.
4. Spiritual Simplicity – Reading the Bible every day should be a priority in all of our lives as followers of Christ but life gets busy and we can start our day reading emails, social media and pulling ourselves farther away from God. Lysa Terkheurst said it best “what feeds us, affects us”. What we give our first moments to in the mornings can have a great impact on the rest of our day. By giving God the first part of our day, we find our souls filled and equipped to face the day with the right frame of mind. Make God a priority with a devotional or a bible app.
5. Schedule Simplicity – If you feel like you are running yourself ragged day after day, I understand. Our schedules can feel like they are out of control most days but they don’t have to. Work to batch your schedule each week. Make lists and meal plans so you can do grocery shopping and errands only one day a week if at all possible. Schedule business meetings when you plan to already be out.
6. Emotional Simplicity – With so much information constantly competing for our attention we can get easily caught up in things that don’t really matter. That political drama on Facebook your high school friend insists on posting daily, the parent that plays sports with your kid that rubs you the wrong way…sound familiar? Life is full of situations that have the potential to get under our skin and make mountains out of molehills but at the end of the day we have to ask ourselves will this matter in 5 years? In 5 weeks??
7. Business Simplicity – As a business owner, your to-do list will always feel like you are taking 2 steps forward and 1 step back but there are ways you can run your business more effectively so it doesn’t feel so overwhelming. Put processes in place to help you streamline your social media, create a blog writing schedule, create a schedule when you can take client calls in a quiet environment, outsource the tasks that you don’t like to (even if it’s only 2-3 hours a week to hire a VA, it can make a huge difference)
8. Self Care Simplicity – I hear all the time how mompreneurs don’t make time for self-care because they are too busy and don’t have time to “spend all day at a spa”. While I too would love to have a full day dedicated to a spa day on a regular basis that is not realistic for most of us. Pampering can be simple and just as replenishing. A nightly bath with your favorite salts, a couple of hours at a coffee shop, locking yourself in a closet to enjoy a favorite treat no one else knows you have. Don’t make self-care complicated when you can create simple moments throughout the day just for you.
9. Marriage Simplicity – In the chaos of life our marriages can often take a back burner but our marriages need nourishment too. Yes, it takes planning but it doesn’t have to be over complicated. Plan a movie night together after the kids go to bed, plan a date night once a month, put it on the calendar, dress up and go to a favorite restaurant, leave a sticky note on your husband’s mirror telling him how much you appreciate his hard work, text him an encouraging scripture during the day to encourage and uplift him.
10. Motherhood Simplicity – Now I know what you must be thinking just reading those two words together and I get it. Motherhood is far from being simple but I want you to hear me out on this. How we view motherhood can greatly affect our feelings and emotions. It can be a tireless, thankless job most of the time but God gave us the incredible gift of raising little arrows for His kingdom.
A simple shift in perspective can help make this job that He has given us feel easier and it starts with replacing “I have to” with “I get to”. When we begin seeing our responsibilities as an act of His service, it feels more hopeful, positive and empowering on days when it feels hard and discouraging. We get to spend time with our family, we get to prepare their meals, we get to clean a home that we have been blessed with, we get to be an example of His love and grace.
This doesn’t mean motherhood stops feeling crazy or complicated but it becomes His work we are privileged to partake in.
I hope this has encouraged you that while simplicity may not be your word or mantra for this year to seek more of it in your own life, to honor where you are right now and stand with confidence in the ability to make the decisions you need to make to live the life God has called for you.
I would love to continue the discussion over on my Facebook page so be sure to connect with me there. Looking for more tips to living life more simple? Follow my Simple Living Pinterest board for lots of ideas and encouragement.
Kendra Dahlstrom is a Faith-based Professional Success Coach who helps women reconnect with their God-given personal power. She created the first Life & Business Bible Study, the Live Into Your Calling Study Course, which helps students discover, fully live into, and transform their God-given Calling into a profitable legacy.
Kendra decided to start her own faith-based coaching practice so she could slowly transition from the corporate world to live a life that she loves – sharing her passion for Jesus Christ with others by serving them to discover their true power and calling.
She has over ten years of leadership development experience and five years experience leading workshops, seminars, and trainings thousands of corporate employees. She uses Life Coaching techniques through the lens of the Bible to help her clients live their Calling to Him the way he envisioned (Ephesians 4:1) as they create a powerful partnership with Him to create a life and business that prospers (Galatians 6:9).
When Kendra isn’t on a video conference or the phone with a client, she can be found playing with her children outside, in a fitness class, or quietly reflecting on the Word alone or with her women’s bible study group.